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MONDAY MOCHA WITH NOAH MICHELSON

Week Two of The Monday Mocha Series. For those of you who have popped by for the first time to have a cuppa with me – this podcast is a chance to have a break from my Aunties, Ammi and 170 cousins featured on my Wednesday podcast and hear the journey of an inspiring individual from some part of the world. As you all know, I love talking. A lot.  The reason for starting the Monday Mocha podcast is that through the teachings and lessons I have the privilege of sharing with you every week that have come from my teachers; I am still a student in pursuit of more knowledge, self awareness and tools to cultivate more of the good things we need more of in this world. Each Monday, I’ll be having a chat to a guest who has much wisdom to share that we can all benefit from – to light up our day that little bit brighter.

It will literally feel like you’re sitting right there, having coffee with us. So c’mon, let’s have a Mocha!

“I was 28 when I wanted a new career. You’re never too old to try something new. If you’re 29 or 48 or 52 and you wanna do something – I say go do it.”

My guest this week is one of my favourite people in media. He is simply adorable and amidst his crazy busy schedule, he always makes time to see me when I’m in New York. From landing in New York with a Poetry Degree and $80,000 in debt, Noah volunteered his time to work as an intern for Out Magazine during the day, and took up odd jobs to pay rent in the evenings. Now, he heads up the Huffington Post Queer Voices Section as Executive Editor. Anyway, enough spoilers from me. Have a listen.

Follow Noah: @noahmichelson

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Noah Michelson & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: What’s Your Flavour? – Wednesday, February 8
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

#11 VENTING OR B*&CHING?

There’s really nothing like a good vent. It’s the start of a process to a solution. But many of us start that process and just stay at the step of venting which can leads to loads of negativity and frustration – especially when others don’t agree with our point of view.

In the episode, we explore the themes of the fine line between venting and b*&ching and the ways we can express how we feel in a way that seeks a solution rather than approval.

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 8
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer

MONDAY MOCHA WITH CLAUDE SILVER

Kicking of the first of The Monday Mocha Series today. It’s a chance to have a break from my Aunties, Ammi and 170 cousins and hear the journey of an inspiring individual from some part of the world. As you all know, I love talking. A lot. It’s very apparent with the regular Wednesday podcasts. The reason for starting the Monday Mocha podcast is that through the teachings and lessons I have the privilege of sharing with you every week that have come from my teachers; I am still a student in pursuit of more knowledge, self awareness and tools to cultivate more of the good things we need more of in this world. Each Monday, I’ll be having a chat to a guest who has much wisdom to share that we can all benefit from – to light up our day that little bit brighter.

It will literally feel like you’re sitting right there, having coffee with us. So c’mon, let’s have a Mocha!

Side note – I know my Melbourne peeps are probably throwing me a bit of shade and judgement with their coffee palates. I hear you. But I stand true to the fact that a Mocha is a REAL coffee.

“I would rather teach and coach someone to take up space in the room and be big in the room than dealing with a fearful ego.”

My first guest is the world’s first Chief Heart Officer – Claude Silver. She’s not quite the conventional Heart Surgeon as her title may imply, but her procedural and operating skills on the heart have a different kind of touch to the scalpel and defribulator. Claude’s role is to assist in building the best human empire in the history of time by building a space where employees feel physically and psychologically safe to be their best selves. She coaches and guides to touch the lives of those who work at VaynerMedia – one of the hottest digital agencies in the world, each and every day.

Follow Claude: @claudesilver

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Claude Silver & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Venting or B*&%ing – Wednesday, February 1
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

 

 

 

 

#10 NO SPEAK ENGLISH

When door to door salesmen or Jehovas Witness’ would knock on our door, instead of engaging in the conversation and assertively saying, “No, Thank you,” in speaking her truth, Ammi used to just claim that she, “No Speak English.”

I’ve found that daily, there are situations that can bring us discomfort and that yucky feeling of unease when the universe presents us with a situation or circumstance to actually speak up in line with our “truth.”

Now, people get a little funny and think I’m saying “Thou shalt speak your truth,” in such a tone. I’m not that fancy. When I say, “speak your truth,” I’m referring to speaking up about how you really feel. Assertively, empoweringly and honestly in the context of a particular situation.

Last season, you wantedI additional tips would be beneficial to your journey so I’ve included in a few in this episode too. Oh and yes, Ammi, my aunties and my 170 cousins will be making frequent guest appearances.

@theginnishow xxx

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 1

Produced by: Sam Phelps

Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson

Photos: Joey Middleton

Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com

www.theginnishow.com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer

WHEN YOU TALK A LOT

I used to be very quiet in my pre-teen years. I was the quiet, unassuming student; the one that would be called “oh so obedient,” during parent/teacher interviews.

Even in my first month of kindergarten, I was so shy that the teachers tried to get me to talk by distracting me with sesame street toys and shiny objects.

Then one day, I was on the school playground and it was my turn to go on the swing. The teachers were delighted because they all seemed to be playing a game of, “Let’s see who can get Ginni to talk.”

I was the shy, chubby Sri Lankan girl who kept to herself and played quietly with the other kids. One of the teachers began her schmoozing; buttering me up so I would finally saying something out aloud. She tried asking me about television, my parents, food – she played all the right cards. Then, she finally exhausted all attempts and said, “Do you talk at all, Ginni?”

I finally gave in and shouted “Yes!” This was met with a look of relief on her face. She probably had gloating points for a whole year and was made the “Diversity Co-Ordinator,” at that school after that moment. You go girl.

Since then, for me, it’s gone from “Let’s see who can make Ginni talk,” to “Let’s see who can shut Ginni up.” What a journey.

And the same goes for podcasting! A lot of entrepreneurs now are turning to podcasting. It’s a great way to share the great knowledge you already have and network with other professionals, experts and colleagues in your industry.

As one of my favourite leaders – Gary Vaynerchuck says; with business these days; it’s likely that you’re a media company first. And podcasting is one of the many, many digital mediums we can use to be that kind of company. To commentate, inform and share key points of information about our industry.

Having worked for both live to air broadcast radio at commercial and community stations, I’ve found that podcasting is a great platform that breaks the usual censorship and red tape you have to be mindful of when it comes to the industry regulators the station faces. How you distribute your content and allocate time for your guests and sponsors is entirely up to you – if there is no affiliation with another station or broadcaster.

Podcasting allows you to share all your information with potential customers and existing clients in a more personalised way. The human voice has an influence and a tone of emotion that cannot be conveyed by text – no matter how much you can channel Hemmingway or Shakespeare in your writing.  This way, you have your listener’s attention. You have an exclusive human connection.

This is the place where The Ginni Show is different from your entrepreneurial podcast. Firstly, the content on the show is not really selling you any product, other than stories of myself and ridiculously large family. It’s these things that got you to my site and to the podcast in the first place. The fact that you take time out to listen to the show;to listen to me. In my shows I try to provide content in a way that’s unique but also universal in how it connects us all through it’s themes. Even though I’m telling my story – in my story, there is a shade of your story. That’s the most valuable connection we will have; more than any further leads or revenue; the connection of humanity.

 

THE ORIGINAL GAYS: A HOLIDAY GUIDE TO FAMILY EVENTS

If you’re someone who identifies as LGBTIQ and are from a very traditional and conservative family like mine – the holiday season can sometimes drum up a bit of anxiety and awkwardness. While we all are finishing up work, school or are trying to squeeze in parties, packing, shopping and cooking; the last thing we need is to add layers of contemplation, awkwardness and anxiety on top of everything else.

There was a moment not too long ago that family functions would make me feel so uncomfortable that I would simply find an excuse to avoid going to them around the holiday season or during the year. When I ran out of excuses, I had to think of ways to try and manage the holiday awkwardness. I came up with a temporary Three Step Plan.

  1. Your gay husband. You could always take him to many a family event. He does your hair, make up, he dresses you up and chooses the most banging outfit for you to wear. It’s a perfect plan. The Aunties and Uncles just think he’s just a very “cultured” person amidst his colourful persona. This can buy you at least 20 family functions. Cash them in as MUCH as you can. Just a forewarning…be prepared as after a few, he may do this.

                 

2. Talk to the most subdued single and eligible bachelor that may be at the party. Usually, these bachelors are NOT there by coincidence. They may be introduced as someone who’s here from out of town and has no family here but you can bet any money that one of your aunties or uncles has done a full interrogation and background check on his eligibility and invited him in the hope that he clicks with one of the single daughters or nieces. Knock yourself out.

3. Be as traditional as you can be, in every single way, on that day. Nail it, sister. Better yet, be natural at it.

I hope that helps you with at least 5 years worth of events? Yes?

In my inner and extended family, no one has publicly “come out” or declared to ever have been in love with someone of the same sex. Well….no one that we know of anyway. This is the case in most families – the fact that we have no precedence to work with. As great an example Ellen is, we can’t keep using her! You can even ask her yourself – It can be quite the task to be the original!

If there are any closeted gays in my family, they’re perhaps going through a similar sense of anxiety that I did, and are waiting for it to be all unravelled when an Aunty or an Uncle to see them out at some Gay club or festival…or in my case, hosting a Gay TV program. If you didn’t know my coming out story to my family – check out episode two of my podcast here:

EP #2 We all have closets to come out of

As difficult as it was dealing with the immediate aftermath of my entire family finding out because one of my Aunty’s had decided to switch on Bent TV: Melbourne’s Gay TV Show on Monday nights at 10pm and watched the entire episode to draw her assumptions and narrative from it – I actually had the easy way out. I didn’t have to relive the anxiety 170 times, telling each and every individual in my family (can you imagine how long that would take with all them cousins?) – I, instead, had a way of telling them in the comfort of their own home on a HD screen with 2 million other people in Melbourne joining them. The only thing missing was the glitter.

Now that my family know, the next step is actually trying to integrate my life into the holidays.  That is, when you have a significant other, how do you take them to family events with you? How many times can you get away with saying, “Aunty, Uncle, this is my FRIEND,” before they figured out exactly what kind of a “friend,” she is. My mind would think of scenarios of their reactions. Being a Sri Lankan family, these reactions would 99.8% of the time be behind my back. So when they did the math, this would be their reaction on the inside:

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The phone calls to the extended family and entire community would begin.

But to my face, during conversations and catch ups amidst the festivities, food, underlying friction and other politics between the many other relatives, we would all be like:

As I said before, it’s not an easy task being “the original gay,” of your family. In Sri Lanka, homosexuality is still criminalised. Most of my family, especially the older generation migrated to Australia so are still living and breathing the customs and the ways of what it was like back in the motherland. Whether it be a fear or the unknown or a religious reason, at times there may be resilience to it. But carrying the burden of hiding who I am, cutting myself off and shrinking myself so that others would feel comfortable was too greater baggage for me to carry. The relief of everyone knowing, even though they may not acknowledge it to me personally and I may be the subject of gossip for a few more family events, the sense of relief that I feel now that the fear, anxiety and crippling effect of anticipation is gone is amazing.

So, to all the original gays of the families out there, congratulations! You’ve done a huge service to the future generations of your family and paved the way to anyone else who may identify as LGBTIQ in your family. Parents will have other parents to talk to about their gay child and connect in a deeper way than before; your cousins can say that they too, “have a gay cousin.” Aunties or Uncles can related to others when they say, “My niece or nephew is gay.” The dialogue is now open. Even though you’ve taken the lion shares of criticism, gossip and judgement – the reward you get for that is: No one ever forgets the original. And your story will be told for generations with a few, or many alterations to it.

At the end of the day, no matter the venue or conflict in politics, religion, marriage or whatever, after a few scotches and a shot of the holiday spirit, we all end up dancing the same dance.

This one.

 

#9 BUILDING WALLS

Over the past three weeks, the world has been either in a state of shock, fear…some are seeking to be positive and others are just in a total state of W.T.F.

I didn’t want to make this podcast about politics, but instead I wanted to use what was going on around us to take time to see what was reflected within us.

With the constant fear inspiring rhetoric we hear in our news feeds and from our leaders, of course, it’s natural to be freaking the F out.

Sometimes the only way to combat such negativity is to start with ourselves. See where it is within us the places we started to build walls around our hearts and our lives. Where did we become intolerant of others out of anger or hate? Because they shared a difference of opinion or political belief? At what time did we separate ourselves from everyone else? Where did we fail to be the best person we could be and use love, peace and thoughtfulness as the foundation. If each and every one of us begin to cultivate that kind of unity within – what is without will begin to reflect that.

It’s the series finale of The Ginni Show and I wanted to say thank you to all of you for tuning in, for inviting me into your spaces, your homes, your cars and your bathrooms – Hola to the toilet phone users out there. Laugh and love that little bit harder and take extra care of yourselves and one another these holidays.

I’ll see you in January 2017.

Ginni xox
@theginnishow

NEXT EPISODE: Season Two Returning January 2017
Wednesday, November 23
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud

#8 FINDING YOUR TRIBE

We’ve seen dynamic duos, fantastic friendship groups and the people you call “ride or die.” Sometimes, these people come in and out of your life, some of them stay for a season but it’s evident that each relationship we have in our life is for a reason.

Over the years, I’ve been blessed to share many close friendships – not all of them are still around, some of them have faded. As these relationships were changing, I grew sad, unhappy and was clinging on for dear life that they wouldn’t change. But they unfortunately did. This episode explores the friendships that you outgrow, the friendships that evolve as you evolve and how you form your ride or die squad.

NEXT EPISODE: The Ginni Show Season Finale
Wednesday, November 23
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud

#7 OPEN UP THE PRESENT

It’s an election special….and I’m sure some of us are a little worried? How many times a day do you worry? What do you actually worry about? Do these worries always come true?

Sometimes we tend to focus our energy, our thoughts and our times on things and circumstances that don’t actually exist or happen. When we worry, we are taken away from the present and the gift that it is.

I wrote this episode on my birthday – a time where most of us reflect on our lives, how far we’ve come and what we’ve achieved. This episode is all about how when we open up the present, the right here and now, we feel thankful, and have more to be thankful for.

NEXT EPISODE: Finding Your Tribe
Wednesday, November 16
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Zoey
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud

#6 : DISCONNECT TO RECONNECT

Do you take your phone into the bathroom with you? We are now in an era where we have more communication streams than ever before. Each day as technology advances, more gadgets are advanced and invented – our dependence on a devise increases, but our focus on actively interacting and communicating effortlessly decreases.

Gone are the days where we only had one way of communicating when and where to catch up for coffee. International Dialling is crystal clear. We are now at a stage where going to the bathroom involves a connection to something digital.

This episode has a little toilet humour. We get up close and personal with our guests and find out just who takes their phone to the bathroom with them and the obsession behind social media posting and reactions.

Join Monique Olmo and returning guests Britni Lesha, Tab Wolod, Ilea Matthews, Rachel Fennimore and Mams Taylor in an episode about how sometimes we need to disconnect from things to connect with ourselves.

Featured Guests:

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Monique Olmo (@birdie2fly )

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Ilea Matthews (@(@ileamatthews)tgs-blog003

Rachel Fennimore (@Fennimas)

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Mams Taylor (@MamsTaylor)

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NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, November 9 – Open Up The Present

Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Mams Taylor, Britni Lesha, Tab Wolod,  Ilea Matthews, Rachel Fennimore, Monique Olmo & Missy Dempsey
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud