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How are you? No really, how are you? I think sometimes, that phrase is used quite flippantly as a way to start a conversation rather than make it the focus of the conversation.

If we were actually using the phrase, “How are you,” and paying extra attention to the response, then the need for a day where you ask people how they are and make it your focus wouldn’t be necessary.

If we’re aware of ourselves more and how we feel, we’re aware of others and how they feel. It becomes difficult to navigate through our emotions, our day to day thoughts, our pre existing though patterns if we lack that very thing; self awareness.

It’s the key to many openings – your strengths, your weaknesses, what you need to work on, what makes you happen, what you need. If you’re self aware, you are well on your way to authentic power.

In a lot of the podcasts I do, I encourage everyone to take time out of their day for themselves. To spend with themselves. I truly want everyone to get to know the essence of how they are, and that takes time and focus. This can be done through meditation, or if that’s not your flavour, sports, reading or just sitting in silence for 30 minutes. It’s perhaps the most important tool you will have.

This episode is a little different to others. I’ve taken a more “serious,” tone to it because I’m serious about you living the happiest life possible for you.

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 22
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempse
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer



When door to door salesmen or Jehovas Witness’ would knock on our door, instead of engaging in the conversation and assertively saying, “No, Thank you,” in speaking her truth, Ammi used to just claim that she, “No Speak English.”

I’ve found that daily, there are situations that can bring us discomfort and that yucky feeling of unease when the universe presents us with a situation or circumstance to actually speak up in line with our “truth.”

Now, people get a little funny and think I’m saying “Thou shalt speak your truth,” in such a tone. I’m not that fancy. When I say, “speak your truth,” I’m referring to speaking up about how you really feel. Assertively, empoweringly and honestly in the context of a particular situation.

Last season, you wantedI additional tips would be beneficial to your journey so I’ve included in a few in this episode too. Oh and yes, Ammi, my aunties and my 170 cousins will be making frequent guest appearances.

@theginnishow xxx

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 1

Produced by: Sam Phelps

Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson

Photos: Joey Middleton

Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer


If you’re someone who identifies as LGBTIQ and are from a very traditional and conservative family like mine – the holiday season can sometimes drum up a bit of anxiety and awkwardness. While we all are finishing up work, school or are trying to squeeze in parties, packing, shopping and cooking; the last thing we need is to add layers of contemplation, awkwardness and anxiety on top of everything else.

There was a moment not too long ago that family functions would make me feel so uncomfortable that I would simply find an excuse to avoid going to them around the holiday season or during the year. When I ran out of excuses, I had to think of ways to try and manage the holiday awkwardness. I came up with a temporary Three Step Plan.

  1. Your gay husband. You could always take him to many a family event. He does your hair, make up, he dresses you up and chooses the most banging outfit for you to wear. It’s a perfect plan. The Aunties and Uncles just think he’s just a very “cultured” person amidst his colourful persona. This can buy you at least 20 family functions. Cash them in as MUCH as you can. Just a forewarning…be prepared as after a few, he may do this.


2. Talk to the most subdued single and eligible bachelor that may be at the party. Usually, these bachelors are NOT there by coincidence. They may be introduced as someone who’s here from out of town and has no family here but you can bet any money that one of your aunties or uncles has done a full interrogation and background check on his eligibility and invited him in the hope that he clicks with one of the single daughters or nieces. Knock yourself out.

3. Be as traditional as you can be, in every single way, on that day. Nail it, sister. Better yet, be natural at it.

I hope that helps you with at least 5 years worth of events? Yes?

In my inner and extended family, no one has publicly “come out” or declared to ever have been in love with someone of the same sex. Well….no one that we know of anyway. This is the case in most families – the fact that we have no precedence to work with. As great an example Ellen is, we can’t keep using her! You can even ask her yourself – It can be quite the task to be the original!

If there are any closeted gays in my family, they’re perhaps going through a similar sense of anxiety that I did, and are waiting for it to be all unravelled when an Aunty or an Uncle to see them out at some Gay club or festival…or in my case, hosting a Gay TV program. If you didn’t know my coming out story to my family – check out episode two of my podcast here:

EP #2 We all have closets to come out of

As difficult as it was dealing with the immediate aftermath of my entire family finding out because one of my Aunty’s had decided to switch on Bent TV: Melbourne’s Gay TV Show on Monday nights at 10pm and watched the entire episode to draw her assumptions and narrative from it – I actually had the easy way out. I didn’t have to relive the anxiety 170 times, telling each and every individual in my family (can you imagine how long that would take with all them cousins?) – I, instead, had a way of telling them in the comfort of their own home on a HD screen with 2 million other people in Melbourne joining them. The only thing missing was the glitter.

Now that my family know, the next step is actually trying to integrate my life into the holidays.  That is, when you have a significant other, how do you take them to family events with you? How many times can you get away with saying, “Aunty, Uncle, this is my FRIEND,” before they figured out exactly what kind of a “friend,” she is. My mind would think of scenarios of their reactions. Being a Sri Lankan family, these reactions would 99.8% of the time be behind my back. So when they did the math, this would be their reaction on the inside:

Accompanied with a bit of:

The phone calls to the extended family and entire community would begin.

But to my face, during conversations and catch ups amidst the festivities, food, underlying friction and other politics between the many other relatives, we would all be like:

As I said before, it’s not an easy task being “the original gay,” of your family. In Sri Lanka, homosexuality is still criminalised. Most of my family, especially the older generation migrated to Australia so are still living and breathing the customs and the ways of what it was like back in the motherland. Whether it be a fear or the unknown or a religious reason, at times there may be resilience to it. But carrying the burden of hiding who I am, cutting myself off and shrinking myself so that others would feel comfortable was too greater baggage for me to carry. The relief of everyone knowing, even though they may not acknowledge it to me personally and I may be the subject of gossip for a few more family events, the sense of relief that I feel now that the fear, anxiety and crippling effect of anticipation is gone is amazing.

So, to all the original gays of the families out there, congratulations! You’ve done a huge service to the future generations of your family and paved the way to anyone else who may identify as LGBTIQ in your family. Parents will have other parents to talk to about their gay child and connect in a deeper way than before; your cousins can say that they too, “have a gay cousin.” Aunties or Uncles can related to others when they say, “My niece or nephew is gay.” The dialogue is now open. Even though you’ve taken the lion shares of criticism, gossip and judgement – the reward you get for that is: No one ever forgets the original. And your story will be told for generations with a few, or many alterations to it.

At the end of the day, no matter the venue or conflict in politics, religion, marriage or whatever, after a few scotches and a shot of the holiday spirit, we all end up dancing the same dance.

This one.



Over the past three weeks, the world has been either in a state of shock, fear…some are seeking to be positive and others are just in a total state of W.T.F.

I didn’t want to make this podcast about politics, but instead I wanted to use what was going on around us to take time to see what was reflected within us.

With the constant fear inspiring rhetoric we hear in our news feeds and from our leaders, of course, it’s natural to be freaking the F out.

Sometimes the only way to combat such negativity is to start with ourselves. See where it is within us the places we started to build walls around our hearts and our lives. Where did we become intolerant of others out of anger or hate? Because they shared a difference of opinion or political belief? At what time did we separate ourselves from everyone else? Where did we fail to be the best person we could be and use love, peace and thoughtfulness as the foundation. If each and every one of us begin to cultivate that kind of unity within – what is without will begin to reflect that.

It’s the series finale of The Ginni Show and I wanted to say thank you to all of you for tuning in, for inviting me into your spaces, your homes, your cars and your bathrooms – Hola to the toilet phone users out there. Laugh and love that little bit harder and take extra care of yourselves and one another these holidays.

I’ll see you in January 2017.

Ginni xox

NEXT EPISODE: Season Two Returning January 2017
Wednesday, November 23
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud


We’ve seen dynamic duos, fantastic friendship groups and the people you call “ride or die.” Sometimes, these people come in and out of your life, some of them stay for a season but it’s evident that each relationship we have in our life is for a reason.

Over the years, I’ve been blessed to share many close friendships – not all of them are still around, some of them have faded. As these relationships were changing, I grew sad, unhappy and was clinging on for dear life that they wouldn’t change. But they unfortunately did. This episode explores the friendships that you outgrow, the friendships that evolve as you evolve and how you form your ride or die squad.

NEXT EPISODE: The Ginni Show Season Finale
Wednesday, November 23
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud


Do you take your phone into the bathroom with you? We are now in an era where we have more communication streams than ever before. Each day as technology advances, more gadgets are advanced and invented – our dependence on a devise increases, but our focus on actively interacting and communicating effortlessly decreases.

Gone are the days where we only had one way of communicating when and where to catch up for coffee. International Dialling is crystal clear. We are now at a stage where going to the bathroom involves a connection to something digital.

This episode has a little toilet humour. We get up close and personal with our guests and find out just who takes their phone to the bathroom with them and the obsession behind social media posting and reactions.

Join Monique Olmo and returning guests Britni Lesha, Tab Wolod, Ilea Matthews, Rachel Fennimore and Mams Taylor in an episode about how sometimes we need to disconnect from things to connect with ourselves.

Featured Guests:


Monique Olmo (@birdie2fly )

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Ilea Matthews (@(@ileamatthews)tgs-blog003

Rachel Fennimore (@Fennimas)


Mams Taylor (@MamsTaylor)

tgs-brtiniBritni Lesha (@britnilesha)

tgs-tabTab Wolod

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, November 9 – Open Up The Present

Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Mams Taylor, Britni Lesha, Tab Wolod,  Ilea Matthews, Rachel Fennimore, Monique Olmo & Missy Dempsey
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud


Everyone has a a creative streak in them. Some of us either lose it along the way because we become distracted with our 9 to 5 job or career path and some of us forget about that part of us, altogether. When we are in touch with our inner child, our creativity soars. Creativity doesn’t necessarily mean artistic – you can be a creative problem solver, a creative organiser…you just have to find where it lies within you!

Episode #4 – Living La Vida Creative talks about the fear we have around our creative self and some tools to take that much dreaded leap.


Featured Guests:


Nora Hooper


Mams Taylor (@MamsTaylor)


Ken Schneck (@ThisShowIsSoGay)


Susan Surftone (@SusanSurftone)

NEXT EPISODE: A Massage To Remember
Wednesday, October 26.

Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Bobby Macumber, Britni Lesha, Nora Hooper, Tab Wolod,  Kate Bollard, Szebastian Onne
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud