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#23 YOUR BOLDEST CHEERLEADERS

This Episode is about resistance to the one thing that is only consistent in our lives – Change. My belief is that there are two types of humans – those who live in curiosity and those who take curiosity as a gateway to opportunity, evolution and experiences. Sometimes those who live in curiosity as just happy doing that. They’re happy living vicariously through others and it brings them joy that they can do that. And then there are those who make commentary, judgements and form unhealthy dialogue. Generally it’s because it’s coming from a place of regret or resentment that they weren’t able to live out their dreams for whatever reason.

The point of this episode is to encourage you. If you’re not doing something or living a life that makes you truly happy because you’re worried about what others will say – stop. It’s enough. You’ve lived your whole life this way and nothing is going to miraculously change. Unless you change the amount of validation and weight that you carry in other people’s beliefs about the way you life your life.

Surround yourself with your boldest cheerleaders. That unconditional support you get from your tribe. Fill your mind and your space with those voices, that energy – because at the end of the day, if you’re truly happy doing what you do and many moments of your life hold that joy, everything else, simply doesn’t matter.

Go be you. Go be happy. You don’t need mine or anyone else’s permission.

Ginni xo

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Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes, Chingaling, Jess Glover, Britni Jackson
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: #24 Wednesday, December 20
MONDAY MOCHA: Monday December 11

Photos: Joey Middleton
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MONDAY MOCHA WITH TOMBOY TIRADE

This Monday Mocha Episode is a special tribute. Why I started this particular podcast on top of the usual Wednesday episodes of The Ginni Show is that I wanted to help you start your Monday’s with that extra spring in your step that may or may not have a helping hand from a caffeinated beverage of some sort.

This episode is a special tribute to Persis Shanker – one of the hosts of Tomboy Tirade – one of Asia’s biggest girl podcasts. I’m joined by Persis herself and her co hosts Joanna, Raven and Siti. Persis sadly passed away earlier this year and I wanted to hold off on this episode and release it at the right time. The first interview I did with Persis was when I was staying at a friend’s place in Brooklyn. Funnily enough, that place is now my home in New York so it’s only fitting that I release this podcast now. Here’s a special Monday Mocha tribute to Persis Shanker of Tomboy Tirade.

Follow Tomboy Tirade: @tomboytarts
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Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Persis Shanker, Raven, Siti & Joanna
NEXT EPISODE: Monday Mocha, December 18
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com

#22 935 KILOGRAMS OF HOLIDAY SPIRIT

 

It’s December! Can you believe we are finally at the last month of 2017? I say finally because around this time of year, we tend to reflect on everything we have achieved and everything we haven’t. Pair that reflection up with the holiday cheer, wrapping up things before the parties and festivities and some of us have to also cram in the shopping, it can feel like a lot of weighing in on you this time of year.

This episode has to do with looking for the spirit, the generosity and love beyond all the madness. I hope it brings the joy to your heart as it intends.

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Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: #23 Wednesday, December 13
MONDAY MOCHA: Monday December 11

Photos: Joey Middleton
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#21 THE BUTTERFLIES WON’T EAT YOU

The day I learnt that Butterflies didn’t have the ability to eat me was one of the most liberating days of my life. I was 12 and I watched a Cethosia butterfly fly away. Celebrate the wins, people. No matter how big of small they are.

I’ve heard many spiritual teachers say that in life, humans tend to look at things in two ways; out of love or out of fear. When we opt for the latter, we go down a spiral of anxiety and darkness and it’s generally a projection of things that don’t exist in the present. We spend all this time and energy worry about things that never really happen. That’s just how powerful and crippling fear is. It’s design to keep us safe and somewhat restricted. Fear does serve a purpose though. Fear teaches us that boundaries are needed to be put in place until we wish to explore what’s beyond.

I feared butterflies for most of my childhood, and this episode will tell you exactly why. This is one of those fears that when you are brave enough to face it, you can find that what’s beyond that fear is something pretty special, innocent and freeing. Whatever your fears may be, if they cripple you and block you from beauty, I hope this episode brings you joy and learning that there is so much freedom beyond fear!

Love @theginnishow x

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Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Jess Glover
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: #22 Honey, We’re All Family, Wednesday, December 6
MONDAY MOCHA: Kath Rento & Mike Genitsaris – Monday December 4

Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com

#20 ITS OK TO LIKE YOUR OWN MUSIC

Hello everyone! It’s been 8 months!

It’s so good to be back! There are quite a few changes that have happened and are happening – but we’ve got another 10 episodes in this entire season to catch up on all that 🙂

Changes teaches us some invaluable lessons – and they are almost always about ourselves. This episode is about what we are taught to think about ourselves and our life. It’s funny how intuition that so naturally develops for us as children gets drowned in doubt, second guesses and fear from the projection of others we grow up around. These projections aren’t always out of ill intent – the ones that impact us are usually what comes from love. However, if there is a inkling inside of you that knows that you’ve always been hearing a different kind of music than to what is being play to you and around you – it’s important to listen to that. Its important to also have your music heard too.

I love that Wednesdays are back. I love that I get to share this day with you again! So here’s the first cab off the rank for Season 3 – It’s Ok To Like Your Own Music.

Love @theginnishow x

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Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Kate Bollard, Missy Dempsey & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Kath Rento & Mike Genitsaris – Monday Mocha April 3
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com

#13 BREAK THE FUNK

How are you? No really, how are you? I think sometimes, that phrase is used quite flippantly as a way to start a conversation rather than make it the focus of the conversation.

If we were actually using the phrase, “How are you,” and paying extra attention to the response, then the need for a day where you ask people how they are and make it your focus wouldn’t be necessary.

If we’re aware of ourselves more and how we feel, we’re aware of others and how they feel. It becomes difficult to navigate through our emotions, our day to day thoughts, our pre existing though patterns if we lack that very thing; self awareness.

It’s the key to many openings – your strengths, your weaknesses, what you need to work on, what makes you happen, what you need. If you’re self aware, you are well on your way to authentic power.

In a lot of the podcasts I do, I encourage everyone to take time out of their day for themselves. To spend with themselves. I truly want everyone to get to know the essence of how they are, and that takes time and focus. This can be done through meditation, or if that’s not your flavour, sports, reading or just sitting in silence for 30 minutes. It’s perhaps the most important tool you will have.

This episode is a little different to others. I’ve taken a more “serious,” tone to it because I’m serious about you living the happiest life possible for you.

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 22
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempse
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com
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#10 NO SPEAK ENGLISH

When door to door salesmen or Jehovas Witness’ would knock on our door, instead of engaging in the conversation and assertively saying, “No, Thank you,” in speaking her truth, Ammi used to just claim that she, “No Speak English.”

I’ve found that daily, there are situations that can bring us discomfort and that yucky feeling of unease when the universe presents us with a situation or circumstance to actually speak up in line with our “truth.”

Now, people get a little funny and think I’m saying “Thou shalt speak your truth,” in such a tone. I’m not that fancy. When I say, “speak your truth,” I’m referring to speaking up about how you really feel. Assertively, empoweringly and honestly in the context of a particular situation.

Last season, you wantedI additional tips would be beneficial to your journey so I’ve included in a few in this episode too. Oh and yes, Ammi, my aunties and my 170 cousins will be making frequent guest appearances.

@theginnishow xxx

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 1
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com

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THE ORIGINAL GAYS: A HOLIDAY GUIDE TO FAMILY EVENTS

If you’re someone who identifies as LGBTIQ and are from a very traditional and conservative family like mine – the holiday season can sometimes drum up a bit of anxiety and awkwardness. While we all are finishing up work, school or are trying to squeeze in parties, packing, shopping and cooking; the last thing we need is to add layers of contemplation, awkwardness and anxiety on top of everything else.

There was a moment not too long ago that family functions would make me feel so uncomfortable that I would simply find an excuse to avoid going to them around the holiday season or during the year. When I ran out of excuses, I had to think of ways to try and manage the holiday awkwardness. I came up with a temporary Three Step Plan.

  1. Your gay husband. You could always take him to many a family event. He does your hair, make up, he dresses you up and chooses the most banging outfit for you to wear. It’s a perfect plan. The Aunties and Uncles just think he’s just a very “cultured” person amidst his colourful persona. This can buy you at least 20 family functions. Cash them in as MUCH as you can. Just a forewarning…be prepared as after a few, he may do this.

                 

2. Talk to the most subdued single and eligible bachelor that may be at the party. Usually, these bachelors are NOT there by coincidence. They may be introduced as someone who’s here from out of town and has no family here but you can bet any money that one of your aunties or uncles has done a full interrogation and background check on his eligibility and invited him in the hope that he clicks with one of the single daughters or nieces. Knock yourself out.

3. Be as traditional as you can be, in every single way, on that day. Nail it, sister. Better yet, be natural at it.

I hope that helps you with at least 5 years worth of events? Yes?

In my inner and extended family, no one has publicly “come out” or declared to ever have been in love with someone of the same sex. Well….no one that we know of anyway. This is the case in most families – the fact that we have no precedence to work with. As great an example Ellen is, we can’t keep using her! You can even ask her yourself – It can be quite the task to be the original!

If there are any closeted gays in my family, they’re perhaps going through a similar sense of anxiety that I did, and are waiting for it to be all unravelled when an Aunty or an Uncle to see them out at some Gay club or festival…or in my case, hosting a Gay TV program. If you didn’t know my coming out story to my family – check out episode two of my podcast here:

EP #2 We all have closets to come out of

As difficult as it was dealing with the immediate aftermath of my entire family finding out because one of my Aunty’s had decided to switch on Bent TV: Melbourne’s Gay TV Show on Monday nights at 10pm and watched the entire episode to draw her assumptions and narrative from it – I actually had the easy way out. I didn’t have to relive the anxiety 170 times, telling each and every individual in my family (can you imagine how long that would take with all them cousins?) – I, instead, had a way of telling them in the comfort of their own home on a HD screen with 2 million other people in Melbourne joining them. The only thing missing was the glitter.

Now that my family know, the next step is actually trying to integrate my life into the holidays.  That is, when you have a significant other, how do you take them to family events with you? How many times can you get away with saying, “Aunty, Uncle, this is my FRIEND,” before they figured out exactly what kind of a “friend,” she is. My mind would think of scenarios of their reactions. Being a Sri Lankan family, these reactions would 99.8% of the time be behind my back. So when they did the math, this would be their reaction on the inside:

Accompanied with a bit of:

The phone calls to the extended family and entire community would begin.

But to my face, during conversations and catch ups amidst the festivities, food, underlying friction and other politics between the many other relatives, we would all be like:

As I said before, it’s not an easy task being “the original gay,” of your family. In Sri Lanka, homosexuality is still criminalised. Most of my family, especially the older generation migrated to Australia so are still living and breathing the customs and the ways of what it was like back in the motherland. Whether it be a fear or the unknown or a religious reason, at times there may be resilience to it. But carrying the burden of hiding who I am, cutting myself off and shrinking myself so that others would feel comfortable was too greater baggage for me to carry. The relief of everyone knowing, even though they may not acknowledge it to me personally and I may be the subject of gossip for a few more family events, the sense of relief that I feel now that the fear, anxiety and crippling effect of anticipation is gone is amazing.

So, to all the original gays of the families out there, congratulations! You’ve done a huge service to the future generations of your family and paved the way to anyone else who may identify as LGBTIQ in your family. Parents will have other parents to talk to about their gay child and connect in a deeper way than before; your cousins can say that they too, “have a gay cousin.” Aunties or Uncles can related to others when they say, “My niece or nephew is gay.” The dialogue is now open. Even though you’ve taken the lion shares of criticism, gossip and judgement – the reward you get for that is: No one ever forgets the original. And your story will be told for generations with a few, or many alterations to it.

At the end of the day, no matter the venue or conflict in politics, religion, marriage or whatever, after a few scotches and a shot of the holiday spirit, we all end up dancing the same dance.

This one.

 

#9 BUILDING WALLS

Over the past three weeks, the world has been either in a state of shock, fear…some are seeking to be positive and others are just in a total state of W.T.F.

I didn’t want to make this podcast about politics, but instead I wanted to use what was going on around us to take time to see what was reflected within us.

With the constant fear inspiring rhetoric we hear in our news feeds and from our leaders, of course, it’s natural to be freaking the F out.

Sometimes the only way to combat such negativity is to start with ourselves. See where it is within us the places we started to build walls around our hearts and our lives. Where did we become intolerant of others out of anger or hate? Because they shared a difference of opinion or political belief? At what time did we separate ourselves from everyone else? Where did we fail to be the best person we could be and use love, peace and thoughtfulness as the foundation. If each and every one of us begin to cultivate that kind of unity within – what is without will begin to reflect that.

It’s the series finale of The Ginni Show and I wanted to say thank you to all of you for tuning in, for inviting me into your spaces, your homes, your cars and your bathrooms – Hola to the toilet phone users out there. Laugh and love that little bit harder and take extra care of yourselves and one another these holidays.

I’ll see you in January 2017.

Ginni xox
@theginnishow

NEXT EPISODE: Season Two Returning January 2017
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com
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#8 FINDING YOUR TRIBE

We’ve seen dynamic duos, fantastic friendship groups and the people you call “ride or die.” Sometimes, these people come in and out of your life, some of them stay for a season but it’s evident that each relationship we have in our life is for a reason.

Over the years, I’ve been blessed to share many close friendships – not all of them are still around, some of them have faded. As these relationships were changing, I grew sad, unhappy and was clinging on for dear life that they wouldn’t change. But they unfortunately did. This episode explores the friendships that you outgrow, the friendships that evolve as you evolve and how you form your ride or die squad.

NEXT EPISODE: The Ginni Show Season Finale
Wednesday, November 23
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps & Zoe
Photos: Joey Middleton
www.theginnishow.com
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