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#16 APPROVED

As kids who enter the world and go through brand new experiences, the memories we form pave the way to our beliefs about ourselves. Generally speaking, a lot of these beliefs evolve around how much we want to be liked – how much we want that fellow human approval. After all, it’s apart of humanity to want to relate and connect with our own species. The issues that arise from this need for approval is that we compromise so much of our own inner voice and needs and fill our minds and energies with resentment.

Oprah calls it the “disease to please,” and when we place ourselves in a position to seek approval or behave in a way just so others will like us, over time resentment builds.

This episode goes through the patterns around approval and where these usually form – home and school; the things we do so that our parents and the cool kids at school like us.

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Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Kim McInnes, Szebastian One, Kate Bollard & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Approved – Wednesday, March 8
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

MONDAY MOCHA WITH TODD SEARS

It’s the sixth Monday Mocha podcast show. I have loved the diversity in guests that I’ve had the honour of spending time with.  One of the reasons why I wanted to start this particular series is to help change the attitude and resistance we have towards Monday which is essentially the mentality we go into the week with. By chatting to an inspiring individual, taking time out to have a coffee or a break – it’s a good way to ease into your week.

“I think friendships can be cyclical based off where you are in your life. True friends understand how I care about them. You may not see them for weeks at a time, but you pick up where you left off. “

This week, we take a trip into the finance world and take a trip down Wall Street to have a chat with banker, LGBT equality entrepreneur and founder of Out Leadership – Todd Sears. Find out how he thinks Australian coffee compares to American coffee and how many times he hits the snooze button before he wakes up.


Follow Todd: @toddsears

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Todd Sears & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Approved – Wednesday, March 8
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

#15 EXCUSE…..ME?

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Now..onto this episode. Are you constantly told that you’re getting in the way of yourself? And then it’s hard to understand what that actually means?

What is it about you that is getting in the way of yourself? What are some of the thought patterns, beliefs and behaviours we subconsciously engage in or are programmed within us that stops us from living the happiest and healthiest life we could?

This podcast is a little more serious but I’m also on the lookout to bring as much JOY as I can so am always finding ways to do so.

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Approved – Wednesday, March 8
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

#14 HAPPINESS IS ICE CREAM. OR IS IT?

Are you happy? What are some of the things about you that make you happy? And in your life that make you happy?

Sometimes happiness is a projection of what others predicate for us. These others can be anyone from our parents, grandparents, teachers, cousins to our school peers. We find ourselves trying to squeeze into a mould that simply isn’t made for us. This applies to almost everything about us. The way we think, the way we behave, what we do and don’t do. It’s interesting how much this projection is a loud tape recorder in our heads.

This episode, we delve into why sometimes what we feel makes us happiness, is the very thing that leads us to unhappiness.

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Break The Funk – Wednesday, February 15
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

#13 BREAK THE FUNK

How are you? No really, how are you? I think sometimes, that phrase is used quite flippantly as a way to start a conversation rather than make it the focus of the conversation.

If we were actually using the phrase, “How are you,” and paying extra attention to the response, then the need for a day where you ask people how they are and make it your focus wouldn’t be necessary.

If we’re aware of ourselves more and how we feel, we’re aware of others and how they feel. It becomes difficult to navigate through our emotions, our day to day thoughts, our pre existing though patterns if we lack that very thing; self awareness.

It’s the key to many openings – your strengths, your weaknesses, what you need to work on, what makes you happen, what you need. If you’re self aware, you are well on your way to authentic power.

In a lot of the podcasts I do, I encourage everyone to take time out of their day for themselves. To spend with themselves. I truly want everyone to get to know the essence of how they are, and that takes time and focus. This can be done through meditation, or if that’s not your flavour, sports, reading or just sitting in silence for 30 minutes. It’s perhaps the most important tool you will have.

This episode is a little different to others. I’ve taken a more “serious,” tone to it because I’m serious about you living the happiest life possible for you.

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 22
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempse
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
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#11 VENTING OR B*&CHING?

There’s really nothing like a good vent. It’s the start of a process to a solution. But many of us start that process and just stay at the step of venting which can leads to loads of negativity and frustration – especially when others don’t agree with our point of view.

In the episode, we explore the themes of the fine line between venting and b*&ching and the ways we can express how we feel in a way that seeks a solution rather than approval.

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 8
Produced by: Sam Phelps
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com
Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer

MONDAY MOCHA WITH CLAUDE SILVER

Kicking of the first of The Monday Mocha Series today. It’s a chance to have a break from my Aunties, Ammi and 170 cousins and hear the journey of an inspiring individual from some part of the world. As you all know, I love talking. A lot. It’s very apparent with the regular Wednesday podcasts. The reason for starting the Monday Mocha podcast is that through the teachings and lessons I have the privilege of sharing with you every week that have come from my teachers; I am still a student in pursuit of more knowledge, self awareness and tools to cultivate more of the good things we need more of in this world. Each Monday, I’ll be having a chat to a guest who has much wisdom to share that we can all benefit from – to light up our day that little bit brighter.

It will literally feel like you’re sitting right there, having coffee with us. So c’mon, let’s have a Mocha!

Side note – I know my Melbourne peeps are probably throwing me a bit of shade and judgement with their coffee palates. I hear you. But I stand true to the fact that a Mocha is a REAL coffee.

“I would rather teach and coach someone to take up space in the room and be big in the room than dealing with a fearful ego.”

My first guest is the world’s first Chief Heart Officer – Claude Silver. She’s not quite the conventional Heart Surgeon as her title may imply, but her procedural and operating skills on the heart have a different kind of touch to the scalpel and defribulator. Claude’s role is to assist in building the best human empire in the history of time by building a space where employees feel physically and psychologically safe to be their best selves. She coaches and guides to touch the lives of those who work at VaynerMedia – one of the hottest digital agencies in the world, each and every day.

Follow Claude: @claudesilver

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play
Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Claude Silver & Sam Phelps
Produced by: Sam Phelps
NEXT EPISODE: Venting or B*&%ing – Wednesday, February 1
Photos: Joey Middleton
Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com
www.theginnishow.com

 

 

 

 

#10 NO SPEAK ENGLISH

When door to door salesmen or Jehovas Witness’ would knock on our door, instead of engaging in the conversation and assertively saying, “No, Thank you,” in speaking her truth, Ammi used to just claim that she, “No Speak English.”

I’ve found that daily, there are situations that can bring us discomfort and that yucky feeling of unease when the universe presents us with a situation or circumstance to actually speak up in line with our “truth.”

Now, people get a little funny and think I’m saying “Thou shalt speak your truth,” in such a tone. I’m not that fancy. When I say, “speak your truth,” I’m referring to speaking up about how you really feel. Assertively, empoweringly and honestly in the context of a particular situation.

Last season, you wantedI additional tips would be beneficial to your journey so I’ve included in a few in this episode too. Oh and yes, Ammi, my aunties and my 170 cousins will be making frequent guest appearances.

@theginnishow xxx

NEXT EPISODE: Wednesday, February 1

Produced by: Sam Phelps

Featured Voices: Ginni Saraswati, Missy Dempsey, Sam Phelps, Kim McInnes & Emma Dawson

Photos: Joey Middleton

Branding & Digital: Szebastian.Com

www.theginnishow.com

Available on: iTunes | Spreaker | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google Play | Insight Timer

WHEN YOU TALK A LOT

I used to be very quiet in my pre-teen years. I was the quiet, unassuming student; the one that would be called “oh so obedient,” during parent/teacher interviews.

Even in my first month of kindergarten, I was so shy that the teachers tried to get me to talk by distracting me with sesame street toys and shiny objects.

Then one day, I was on the school playground and it was my turn to go on the swing. The teachers were delighted because they all seemed to be playing a game of, “Let’s see who can get Ginni to talk.”

I was the shy, chubby Sri Lankan girl who kept to herself and played quietly with the other kids. One of the teachers began her schmoozing; buttering me up so I would finally saying something out aloud. She tried asking me about television, my parents, food – she played all the right cards. Then, she finally exhausted all attempts and said, “Do you talk at all, Ginni?”

I finally gave in and shouted “Yes!” This was met with a look of relief on her face. She probably had gloating points for a whole year and was made the “Diversity Co-Ordinator,” at that school after that moment. You go girl.

Since then, for me, it’s gone from “Let’s see who can make Ginni talk,” to “Let’s see who can shut Ginni up.” What a journey.

And the same goes for podcasting! A lot of entrepreneurs now are turning to podcasting. It’s a great way to share the great knowledge you already have and network with other professionals, experts and colleagues in your industry.

As one of my favourite leaders – Gary Vaynerchuck says; with business these days; it’s likely that you’re a media company first. And podcasting is one of the many, many digital mediums we can use to be that kind of company. To commentate, inform and share key points of information about our industry.

Having worked for both live to air broadcast radio at commercial and community stations, I’ve found that podcasting is a great platform that breaks the usual censorship and red tape you have to be mindful of when it comes to the industry regulators the station faces. How you distribute your content and allocate time for your guests and sponsors is entirely up to you – if there is no affiliation with another station or broadcaster.

Podcasting allows you to share all your information with potential customers and existing clients in a more personalised way. The human voice has an influence and a tone of emotion that cannot be conveyed by text – no matter how much you can channel Hemmingway or Shakespeare in your writing.  This way, you have your listener’s attention. You have an exclusive human connection.

This is the place where The Ginni Show is different from your entrepreneurial podcast. Firstly, the content on the show is not really selling you any product, other than stories of myself and ridiculously large family. It’s these things that got you to my site and to the podcast in the first place. The fact that you take time out to listen to the show;to listen to me. In my shows I try to provide content in a way that’s unique but also universal in how it connects us all through it’s themes. Even though I’m telling my story – in my story, there is a shade of your story. That’s the most valuable connection we will have; more than any further leads or revenue; the connection of humanity.

 

THE ORIGINAL GAYS: A HOLIDAY GUIDE TO FAMILY EVENTS

If you’re someone who identifies as LGBTIQ and are from a very traditional and conservative family like mine – the holiday season can sometimes drum up a bit of anxiety and awkwardness. While we all are finishing up work, school or are trying to squeeze in parties, packing, shopping and cooking; the last thing we need is to add layers of contemplation, awkwardness and anxiety on top of everything else.

There was a moment not too long ago that family functions would make me feel so uncomfortable that I would simply find an excuse to avoid going to them around the holiday season or during the year. When I ran out of excuses, I had to think of ways to try and manage the holiday awkwardness. I came up with a temporary Three Step Plan.

  1. Your gay husband. You could always take him to many a family event. He does your hair, make up, he dresses you up and chooses the most banging outfit for you to wear. It’s a perfect plan. The Aunties and Uncles just think he’s just a very “cultured” person amidst his colourful persona. This can buy you at least 20 family functions. Cash them in as MUCH as you can. Just a forewarning…be prepared as after a few, he may do this.

                 

2. Talk to the most subdued single and eligible bachelor that may be at the party. Usually, these bachelors are NOT there by coincidence. They may be introduced as someone who’s here from out of town and has no family here but you can bet any money that one of your aunties or uncles has done a full interrogation and background check on his eligibility and invited him in the hope that he clicks with one of the single daughters or nieces. Knock yourself out.

3. Be as traditional as you can be, in every single way, on that day. Nail it, sister. Better yet, be natural at it.

I hope that helps you with at least 5 years worth of events? Yes?

In my inner and extended family, no one has publicly “come out” or declared to ever have been in love with someone of the same sex. Well….no one that we know of anyway. This is the case in most families – the fact that we have no precedence to work with. As great an example Ellen is, we can’t keep using her! You can even ask her yourself – It can be quite the task to be the original!

If there are any closeted gays in my family, they’re perhaps going through a similar sense of anxiety that I did, and are waiting for it to be all unravelled when an Aunty or an Uncle to see them out at some Gay club or festival…or in my case, hosting a Gay TV program. If you didn’t know my coming out story to my family – check out episode two of my podcast here:

EP #2 We all have closets to come out of

As difficult as it was dealing with the immediate aftermath of my entire family finding out because one of my Aunty’s had decided to switch on Bent TV: Melbourne’s Gay TV Show on Monday nights at 10pm and watched the entire episode to draw her assumptions and narrative from it – I actually had the easy way out. I didn’t have to relive the anxiety 170 times, telling each and every individual in my family (can you imagine how long that would take with all them cousins?) – I, instead, had a way of telling them in the comfort of their own home on a HD screen with 2 million other people in Melbourne joining them. The only thing missing was the glitter.

Now that my family know, the next step is actually trying to integrate my life into the holidays.  That is, when you have a significant other, how do you take them to family events with you? How many times can you get away with saying, “Aunty, Uncle, this is my FRIEND,” before they figured out exactly what kind of a “friend,” she is. My mind would think of scenarios of their reactions. Being a Sri Lankan family, these reactions would 99.8% of the time be behind my back. So when they did the math, this would be their reaction on the inside:

Accompanied with a bit of:

The phone calls to the extended family and entire community would begin.

But to my face, during conversations and catch ups amidst the festivities, food, underlying friction and other politics between the many other relatives, we would all be like:

As I said before, it’s not an easy task being “the original gay,” of your family. In Sri Lanka, homosexuality is still criminalised. Most of my family, especially the older generation migrated to Australia so are still living and breathing the customs and the ways of what it was like back in the motherland. Whether it be a fear or the unknown or a religious reason, at times there may be resilience to it. But carrying the burden of hiding who I am, cutting myself off and shrinking myself so that others would feel comfortable was too greater baggage for me to carry. The relief of everyone knowing, even though they may not acknowledge it to me personally and I may be the subject of gossip for a few more family events, the sense of relief that I feel now that the fear, anxiety and crippling effect of anticipation is gone is amazing.

So, to all the original gays of the families out there, congratulations! You’ve done a huge service to the future generations of your family and paved the way to anyone else who may identify as LGBTIQ in your family. Parents will have other parents to talk to about their gay child and connect in a deeper way than before; your cousins can say that they too, “have a gay cousin.” Aunties or Uncles can related to others when they say, “My niece or nephew is gay.” The dialogue is now open. Even though you’ve taken the lion shares of criticism, gossip and judgement – the reward you get for that is: No one ever forgets the original. And your story will be told for generations with a few, or many alterations to it.

At the end of the day, no matter the venue or conflict in politics, religion, marriage or whatever, after a few scotches and a shot of the holiday spirit, we all end up dancing the same dance.

This one.